Laffer Curves of Dating
Laffer Curves of Dating
This is a reader recommended blog! J.W. Isaacs‘ recommendation was to use a Laffer Curve and “replace tax % on the x axis with expectations and replace tax revenue with results.”
This is the Laffer Curve
The basic lesson is that there is an optimum tax rate for government revenues before the tax burden starts hurting the economy and government revenues fall. While this may be an intuitive idea, the economist Art Laffer changed the political debate about taxes when he first drew up this curve on a dinner napkin.
Dating Lesson
Ok, so per the recommendation, we are replacing “tax percent” with “expectations” and “government revenue” with “dating results.” Which makes the statement,
There is an optimum expectation for dating results before the level of expectations starts hurting the relationship and results fall.
How true.
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People tend to rise to level of expectation placed on them. If you expect nothing from another person (“no taxes”), then that may be exactly what you get in the long run. In the short term, a reasonable person will spin his or her wheels trying to make relationship work- but if you don’t communicate expectations, the other person will move on quickly. The opportunity to meet each other’s expectations can never happen if these expectations are not communicated clearly. You will actually be doing the other person a disservice by boring him or her, and not allowing a person to use to his or her talent to relate to others.
Likewise, placing too much burden on the other person (“taxes too high”) will quickly topple the relationship. The tax man who can never be satisfied will be dreaded. If one person feels that he or she can never please the other, soon he or she will stop trying. Resentment will quickly set in because the person feels controlled and unable to freely express the ways he or she is able to relate to another person.
In order for a free market (“prosperous relationship”) to flourish, the right balance of challenge and freedom will be needed. When two people who are similarly matched (in terms I will not attempt to determine for you), they are able to express and serve each other with alacrity. When people know how they can best serve another person, they are free to use their strengths in ways they are comfortable expressing.
Enter the marketplace (“dating world”) with an entrepreneurial drive and a tempered sense of self-centeredness, and allow the invisible hand of relationship chemistry to work. If you know where to look, you will find emerging markets in unexpected places. Happy hunting!